so, let's address the elephant in the room.
no, not the one about me getting caught smoking and then having to say the sinner's prayer.
the one about me having come to a point in life where i am without a male companion.
some of you (okay, most of you) know that i've been in a relationship over the last 8 years. it was the best and worst experience of my life. it made me realize how much people trivialize matters like love and sex like as though it was something you could get off an app. but in actual fact, those are matters of the heart that require so much care, attention, respect and humility.
he was amazing. and he will always be. whether he believes it or not, i still think he is amazing like when the entire population of GoT fans go gaga over Kit Harington's bare, lean bottom on screen.
but that's the thing about relationships.
it's about two amazing people getting together to join forces and to take over everyone's social media feeds on every platform.
it's about two amazing people coming together only to realize that maybe they are not amazing as how they thought they were because traits like respect, love and patience don't just fall out of the sky. it's about two amazing people realizing how imperfect they are and despite that, they choose to keep their love together through thick and thin.
so then i ask myself, "if we broke up, does that mean we don't love each other?"
and again, i ask myself "if we broke up, does that mean that everything we believed in were all wasted?"
when the news of our separation hit the word-of-mouth channel, i noticed that there were two camps. the first camp was the "yeah, i guess this is for the best and this will help both of you grow" and then there was the other camp "oh please, you guys will so get back together because you can't stand being away from each other".
i guess the beauty about this is that people can say whatever the fuck they wanna say but at the end of the day, to quote the great Olive Penderghast, "it is nobody's goddamn business".
i'm glad we survived 8 years together (which is more than the average non-married couple in kuala lumpur). i'm glad that we respect each other.
and lastly, i'm glad that there is so much that we don't know about relationships.
and to you, my dear, you can. you always could <3
